By Sherry Cote
(As published in Madeleine, A Woman’s World, Copyright)
The traditional definition of ‘elope’ refers to a sudden and secretive marriage, usually to avoid parental objections. Today’s elopements are often exciting, planned alternatives to traditional weddings — and parents, close friends, and family may even be invited.
Reasons People Elope
Parental objection to their child’s choice of spouse is no longer the only reason couples elope. There are many benefits that make it an attractive option for modern couples. Advantages over having a traditional wedding include:
This is one of the most popular reasons for eloping. Feeling pressured into having the ‘perfect’ or most ‘unique’ wedding, many newlyweds find themselves buried in debt. Rather than spend thousands of dollars they may or may not have, couples may choose to forego a lavish wedding and reception in favor of eloping.
Statistics indicate that an average wedding costs approximately $20,000, and that does not include the honeymoon! Eloping is so much less stressful and a bargain, when you consider the cost of a conventional wedding. An elopement package can cost about $1,000 and for less than $5,000 a couple can get married and have a one week honeymoon in Kelowna.
Fun, Excitement, and Romance: The thrill of having a destination wedding or taking off with your fiancée is what lures some away from traditional weddings. The sense of spontaneity and adventure that accompanies an elopement can be very appealing.
Avoiding Stress of Wedding Planning:
Even a planned elopement that includes family and friends does not take the time and attention to detail of planning that a traditional wedding ceremony and reception can.
Privacy and Intimacy:
For some, the wonderful experience of getting married is best celebrated through a private and intimate getaway. This allows the couple to really focus on one another and the special joy of their marriage.
Is Eloping Right For Me?
Savvy, independent couples elope to do something different, to create the wedding they want without any compromises. Today’s elopements are no longer taboo affairs, they are happy surprises. Eloping is the wedding day as it was before the advent of Bridezilla, the 250 person guest list, and the bar bill. A wedding is a day, but a marriage is forever.
And while elopements have traditionally been an exclusive affair, they don’t have to be. Just because you elope does not mean that family members or friends can’t be with you. You can still have your father walk you down the aisle or your best friend witness your ceremony. The best part of eloping is that there are no rules!